Without knowing what to look for, we may miss the signs that someone close to us is taking too much alcohol. It is noticeable when someone from your family or friend shows up completely drunk or they consume large quantity of alcohol in short time. You're in a good position to notice if a loved one is drinking too much since you are close to them. We sought for the advice of alcohol dependency professionals.
The ideal strategy to face someone you care of is sympathy and understanding, according to Dr Sheri Jacobson, psychotherapist and advisor at Harley Therapy.
Consider how you would like to be approached if an individual looked forward to giving you information about having a problem with alcohol.
According to Dr Jacobson, "It can be humiliating to be told they may be drinking too much and their first response might be to be defensive and deny they have a problem,".
They may have the belief that everyone else is doing the same thing because of the acceptance we have of our culture of having alcohol, which is widespread that leads us to believe we are being classified as binge drinkers. Let them know that you are preoccupied about their behaviour, don't attack them".
The best empathic approach to employ is to use the most positive language.
Meanwhile, it's definitely best to avoid harsh criticism, making judgments and labels such as "alcoholic". Don't get into a circular conversation where you and the other person go back and forth over the same issue. Rather than asking questions that leave little room for anything other than the answer you want such as asking the other person whether they think they have a problem, ask open questions such as asking the other person what they think about something you noticed.
Selecting the right time is crucial for both of you. Ensure that you are both in the right mood and feeling calm and confident without being too emotional. You also need to have in possession of it as much information as possible, which will allow you to offer the person you care about the precise facts and advice on where they can look forward to finding some support.
The person you care about may be able to consider changing their drinking habits if at this point you talk to them and if you have the help of someone who isn't connected to either of you. This would mean that they'll get to hear about their drinking problem from someone else who's not you. You could very well be surprised to understand that the person concerned will begin to agree with you. They may admit that they too think they've been drinking a lot more. Although sometimes they won't. The most important thing is for them to want to change their drinking habits themselves although you can offer your support. Which indicates having the same talk with them two or three times before they admit they do have an issue.
We give a private Alcohol Self-Assessment Test which includes an initial evaluation of drinking customs and proper support on what's next. Influence of alcohol on your relationship is extra guidance you can have.