The Insanity of Alcoholism Sadly, support people that strive to preserve the alcoholic from the individual or attempt to express what they will do next.
Many sayings are popular with alcoholics getting rid of booze. While some should be viewed with literal eyes, some should elicit deep reflections in you. "The insanity of our disease" is one such saying from Alcoholics Anonymous. The statement is very literal. I can talk to you about the active alcoholic but you won't get it because understanding it means removing lucidity, the consciousness and motivation to absorb information from errors, the capacity to accept evident behavioural schemes and most of the times, using common sense.
There are nearly a hundred forms of alcoholism. The conscious alcohol user, who is completely active, and has never experienced grievous loss, is the person I am referring to here. The addiction disorder governs that eventually these things will be lost and rule of three shows us a very depressing future (prison, institution or fatality). Alcoholics have distorted perceptions about themselves and the world around them, and therefore, they think, act and believe on the feelings of the perceptions that have.
They are often accustomed to living life around the extremes and believe they should be getting all or nothing. There is no mildness, no central view point, no agreement, and no right and wrong for their way of thinking. In many cases, alcoholics live in denial of their destructive habits [self and others] and this habit among them further distorts the things that they are able to make sense of.
Because of their ability to convince themselves that lies are truths by justifying and rationalizing everything, you will discover the biggest liars among addicts. The lying is usually a subconscious response.
They are not aware that they are messing around with their lives.
Their language of communication makes lying to seem very harmless to those listening. The favourite word they use is "probably." "Probably" suggests goal which actually doesn't exist any. The probability of an alcoholic taking an action when they tell you that they will probably do it is very slim. These words are ambiguous; they are a way out to keeping the word given and committing. Possibly, would, could, maybe, should, I want to and other such phrases are very common in the vocabulary of alcoholics. These words don't make sense. They normally end up not being carried out even though they sound good. Alcoholism ruins everything from relations, communication and everything that makes up the alcoholic's life.
Most of the alcoholics will tell you that the horse will not see properly when blinders are placed on it. Although they may be able to work on various things on a given day, working on any one thing will require that they turn their attention away from other things.
When an alcoholic attempts to multitask, all you end up with is a mess. An active alcoholic has no equilibrium. Since one part of their life reduces, they will frequently concentrate their mind on it and take it to an extreme. As this occurs, every step they take is connected to the most serious issues making their existence a sort of "firehouse management" because another aspect of their life fails. Although many alcoholics can keep this up for a long time, the downward trend that follows is unavoidable.
Alcoholics will tend to hide how often and how much they drink when they start consuming more alcohol. They may tell you a half truth such as drinking only three glasses of wine on a given day. But they haven't confessed how big each glass was. While concealing their drinking pattern, they could also conceal the problems that alcohol has caused for them. Alcoholics often develop what is termed as counsellors as an external locus of control. This means that for everything that goes wrong, there's someone else to blame. In case their job isn't going well it's due to the fact that their employer dislike them. If their marriage suffers for any reason, the spouse is considered as unreasonable. They may even call their children ungrateful when they can't properly fulfil their parental obligations.
They will find a cause for drinking in anything and everything.Terrible situation at work / partner / children are to be blamed if they end up having a drink.
Alcoholics constantly have a strange feeling of entitlement. They say they are not mature or responsible, and self-centred because life forces them to go through difficulties / anxiety / commitment. Everything has to pay them back for something according to their attitude. Being a target and stumbling in self-indulgence is how the active alcoholic views himself. When they begin demanding more from the world, they also start expecting less from themselves.
The word "Screw it" is actually their fastest path to destroying themselves. This is the moment they'll decide to drink since everything is already beyond fixing to them. Once someone decides to quit alcohol, we stimulate them to realise that "It" is, in truth, "Me." This is evident in "it's not worth it." The alcoholics make conscious efforts to deny the facts, even when they are aware of them all. They won't just want to deny their condition on their own but will also want those around them to deny it themselves. Although there won't be much meaning left in their lives, they'll still want to put up an appearance that everything is as it should be. "Family Portrait", a song by Pink, properly elaborates this. "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal.'
Alcoholics are considered as master manipulators and despite not having been con artists before they develop the problem of alcoholism, they display remarkable skills at manipulation. Their level of manipulation will enable them to get what they want no matter how hard. They will not hesitate to get involved in a fight with you because they are looking forward to leaving but want to make it seem that it is your fault. They demonstrate little or no responsibility. They might have had principles before their addiction begun, however it will be away from their lives since they spiral. The one thing that the alcoholic does particularly well, the thing that gives them confidence, is usually the exception in this case. In some cases, you may get an alcoholic whose attitude to work is amazing, because it is an area they enjoy so much and are perfect in ......plus drinking.
Alcoholism is a sickness that slowly takes everything away from the addict The question about whether addiction to alcohol is an ailment of its own or not has been coming to us. The fact is that it is both. As a disease alcoholism is unique because it cannot just hide from you, but it also lies to its carrier about the presence it has. As it connects to all other sicknesses, there is a peculiar choice for the active addict. The alcoholic can reduce anytime and many do. It has often been observed that alcoholics will abstain from the substance for some time in order to prove to themselves, and the others that they are not addicted but will return with a vengeance at a later date.
A recovery from alcoholism involves a lot more than just remaining sober. Modifying every part of one's life is needed to retrieve from alcoholism. A dry drunk is an alcoholic who has stopped drinking and this means that while they may not be drinking, they're still far from recovery and some people remain dry drunks for many years. True long-term recovery is only possible through programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous according to many professionals. There are innumerable positive things that may be additional to the plan of AA and their significance can't be exaggerated. Friends and relatives of alcoholics undergoing treatment must assist them all through. Unfortunately, I meet many friends and family members that are accidentally allowing by preserving an alcoholic from the natural results of their behavior, the alcohol addicted and this constantly develops in someone keeping stuck in alcohol addiction.