Getting To Know More About Al-Anon
A family of support groups for people who have been affected by alcoholism in their family is Al-Anon. This kind of a support group is after assisting people overcome their addiction to alcohol.
Al- Anon is a support organization for the friends and family members of problem drinkers, founded in 1951. 16 years after Bill W founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon was founded by Lois W. his wife and Anne B. The group was started for the sole purpose of assisting alcoholic family members recover which was something she was facing in her life. Al-Anon is a self-supported organization which exists thanks to financial contributions from members. Support groups meetings help alcoholics' family members and friends to cope with the situation and treat their loved ones better, even if they haven't recovered yet.
The fight against alcoholism is a joint undertaking and that is the objective of this support group.
Alcoholism Affecting The Whole Family
The people close to the alcoholic person are also affected in one way or the other and Al-Anon seeks to help them also overcome the challenge they might be facing. It is integral for the alcoholic's recovery to have a family and friend support system around them.
Some family members blame themselves for their loved one's drinking or may not realise why recovery is their loved one's primary concern. During the Al-Anon gathering, people are educated about taking alcoholism not as a one person problem but as a joint issue in the family.
Alateen Is Al-Anon For Teenagers
Besides, Al-Anon has a group named Alateen organized specially for young people whose family member suffers from alcoholism.
Teens get to associate with each other and share experiences of how alcoholism has affected them.
Al-Anon Group Advantages
Members benefit from Al-Anon because they are introduced to many people and families who suffer from alcoholism. People are different, although, Al-Anon members have all had similar experiences with their struggles. Al-Anon provides a key benefit and that is to help people finding others who have had similar experiences to talk about. Al-Anon meetings are held throughout the nation. Call us on 0800 246 1509 to help you find one near you.
What You Can Expect From A Meeting
For anyone who is affected by someone else's drinking, Al- Anon meetings are for those. Al-Anon can assist you if you are anxious about someone's drinking habit or if their lifestyle affects you personally.
People always fear the unknown, and so the first meeting at Al-Anon is bound to be a challenge. Certain things to remember when considering attending a meeting:
- Al-Anon is a group that is unidentified
- Everybody present in each meeting has faced the problem of alcoholism, either personally or has a family member suffering from it
- While members are encouraged to speak up and discuss their problem, they are under no obligation to do so
- The Meetings Usually Vary
- Some could be more productive for you than the others.
- Al-Anon is by no means a religious organization
- Al-Anon meetings follow the 12 Step program
The Al-Anon meetings work on the "take what you like and leave the rest" philosophy Based on this formula the meetings concentrate on the sharing of experiences and the hardships of the attendees rather than giving them any instructions about what they should do.
The 12 Stages Of Al-Anon
Every meeting begins with the reading of Al-Anon's twelve-step program. The Alcoholics Anonymous started the 12 step recovery program that is being used in the Al-Anon meetings. Al-Anon members start with a sponsor who assists them work through the steps and who is ready for help in times of difficulty, mostly similar to AA. The 12 Steps are as follows:
- We admit that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Members learn to accept alcoholism as a disease they cannot control in others.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Members frequently motivate themselves to the brink by trying to reform or control their loved one.
- They understand to accept that they can revert to sanity, after acknowledging they are powerless.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- It is important that members learn to let go.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Identifying that your life is being affected by alcoholism is one way of getting the best help.
- The group members write down a list of the instances when they may have been unfair to themselves or their significant others (for example, threats).
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong doings.
- Thats a study of each listing in the group members moral inventory, which enables them to delve into each problem.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- This is a very important step, as it is the complete acceptance of the process of recovery supported by a Higher Power.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- This part of the 12 steps provides members with the assistance needed to understand how they may have been exercising control or being judgmental towards an addict and how these actions are counterproductive.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Very often, righting a wrong starts with yourself.
- Many people blame themselves for their loved ones addiction.
- These people had better be willing to forgive and make amends to themselves.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Working on the steps of recovery and help after forgiving yourself is the next step.
- Went on making personal inventory and each time we were wrong, we admitted it at once.
- Passing through these twelve Steps is a time-consuming process.
- There is also a possibility for relapse when trying to recover in the program.
- It s usually a duration and this is outlined by stage 10.
- Through prayer and meditation endeavoured to improve our conscious contact with God as we perceived Him, praying only for learning His will for us and the strength to do it.
- This is taking personal spiritual responsibility and surrender so as to start healing.
- Having experienced a spiritual awakening thanks to these steps, we tried to spread the word to other people, and to always practice these principles.
- The last step includes perception that the persons journey is not over yet.
- They are encouraged with support to use what they have learned to assist others.
Recognising The Higher Power
Members do have an acceptance of a higher power, even though Al-Anon is not a religious program. The term "higher power" is, however, open to interpretation according to the personal beliefs of individuals. Al-Anon does not interfere with a member's religious convictions.